Betty with Jacob 2.5 years and Sadie 3 months
Betty with Jacob 2.5 years and Sadie 3 months

I was on the fence for years whether I wanted to become a mum or not, as I was keen to travel and see the world and do my own thing.

Then I got together with my now ex while she was pregnant and went through that journey with her and raised her son until he was 4.

I found that I loved being a mum, and actually, I wasn’t too bad at it.

I decided to carry a baby myself and found a wonderful man willing to be a donor with no other payment or obligation but an annual photo.

Even though my partner and I split up shortly after I brought home my son, I knew I had made the right choice.  I also always knew if I had any that I wanted 2 children, as I feel like the youngest of 4 that you have to have a sibling.

My sister is my rock, and life is better and the hard times are easier because we have each other.  Particularly because I am a single mother, I wanted to make sure my children had each other to lean on if anything were to happen to me, as no one knows you or what your life is like other than a sibling you grew up with.

My donor agreed to help me again, and I had my daughter.  At the risk of sounding like a cliche, they truly have made my world better, and are the joys of my life.  They have made me a kinder, more patient person, though they also make me feel a terror I have never known that something will happen to them!

It really is true that you do not know love until you have a child of your own.  The love is almost overwhelming at times but in the most fantastic of ways.  Even though life has thrown me some pretty rough curveballs in the last several years, I can now think of all those hard times as a journey that had to happen in order for me to have my children, and that makes it all worth it.

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