lesbians sitting on sofa holding hands Why serial dating leads to disaster.

If you’re dating, and things aren’t working out for you, it’s time to get acquainted with my dating advice book, She’s Just Not That Into You.

Let’s talk about the filler and the U-Haul for a while. What exactly is a filler? A filler is a name for a person who is being used by another person to bide their time while they search for “the one”. In short, this person cannot be alone so they date anyone who crosses their path simply to distract themselves from the idea of being single. These people go by the title of  “serial monogamist” and their favourite person to date is, you guessed it, the filler.

Looking back on our love lives we realize that we’ve all been a filler for someone at one point or another. Some of us were attentive enough to realize what was going on and others weren’t. Every experience is a learning opportunity so being a filler isn’t a completely horrible thing. If anything it teaches you how to avoid people who are fighting a battle with themselves by way of other people. If you don’t want to be a casualty of love, stay far the hell away from anyone who’s a serial monogamist. They will make you question the true meaning of love and suck your energy dry so they can fill themselves up.

This begs the question, are you a girl who uses fillers? When was the last time you dated someone for the hell of it? Or is there actually some kind of strategy implemented into your saying routine? When was the last time you were single and how long did it last?   Why did things end?

If you are a woman who uses fillers there’s a good chance you aren’t even aware of your actions. Admitting you have a problem is the first step so if you’re having a hard time being honest about your reality as a filler, you’re going to have an even harder time resolving the issues necessary to find someone you genuinely want to be with.

Lucky for you if you are a girl who uses fillers, you’ll be happy to know that there is hope for you to drop your unhealthy dating habits. First things first, you have to figure out whether you’re a filler or not.

Here are a few signs:

– You are always in a relationship.
– You get anxiety when you think about being single.
– Even when you’re happy with someone you’re worried about who you’ll date if the two of you happen to go separate ways.
– You go through the same emotions in every relationship.
– You don’t harbour any emotions after a break-up that stop you from moving on quickly.
– You always have a “plan B” in your back pocket just in case plan A doesn’t work out.
– You aren’t emotionally invested when dating from person to person.
– You can’t stand to be alone at any given time.
– You justify jumping in and out of relationships by blaming the failing relationship on whoever you dated last.


These are all signs of someone who may be dating people as fillers to bide their time.


Inquiring minds would like to know, if you aren’t filling, are you unknowingly acting as a filler for someone else? Have you evaluated the relationship you are in and/or pursuing in order to ensure you are out of harm’s way? And by harm we mean some crazy-ass she-devil who can only be alone long enough to pop a squat and light a cig. In a world where everyone is seeking love, it’s easy to become intertwined with people who don’t have pure intentions for you.