6 Things To Know About The Girl You Like Who Just Ended Her Relationship
It can be difficult dating a girl that just got out of a relationship.
Sometimes in life, the person that we should or would have hoped to spend the rest of our lives with slips away in a blink of an eye. Love is a fragile and precious thing. When a relationship is good, we believe it will never end. But life is unpredictable and beyond our control. Sometimes, it’s just not meant to be.
Dating a girl who just got out of a relationship can be hard. She might be still dealing with the aftermath of a messy breakup, slowly building her confidence and finding her way back into the dating world.
It’s never easy to do, but it simply takes time. If you find yourself liking or even falling in love with a woman who just got out of a relationship, remember that she needs time to review her life and her relationship goals. Here are a few tips to help you see where she’s coming from.
1. Don’t Rush Things
If you just met her, take your time to get to know her and understand who she is. If you already know her and have for some time now, that’s even more of a reason to let her heal on her own. If you’re gaining feelings for her and want to let her know how you feel just to get it off your chest, this may not be the best time.
2. She Still Feels Lost and Alone
No matter how much time that has passed, being heartbroken takes a big toll on us. She’s gonna feel lost and alone. And that’s OK. She doesn’t need a hero to come and save her. There’s nothing wrong with spending a little time alone with our pain after a break-up. This is a pain she needs to feel.
3. Everyone Is Different
We all take breakups differently. Sometimes we’re happy that it ended, other times we didn’t have a say in the matter. Healing comes in many ways. Allow her to grieve the loss of the relationship. She’s saying goodbye, not only to the relationship, but to the dreams, goals and commitments that were once shared with her ex.
4. She’s Not Ready
Both of you have to remember that this is her time now. She’s doing something that she hasn’t really done before - focusing on her life. This may be a hard thing for you to do. It could be that you have all these feelings inside of you that you need to let out. But doing that could hurt the friendship that you two have built. The best thing you could do is be there for her. Not in the, ‘I like you,’ way. In the friend way.
5. Her Standards Are Different Now
Standards always change when you go through a breakup, hopefully for the better. Being in a relationship, you sometimes forget who you are and the things you wanted to do in life. A break-up can shake you out of your comfort zone and put you back on the path to achieving your goals. Just remember, she may be focusing more on her career or her personal goals than seeking a serious relationship right now.
6. Remember That A Relationship Is Not Want She Needs Now
Jumping into a new relationship isn’t something that’s going to help her move on from her ex or make her heal faster. If you truly care for her and want to see something happen between you, you shouldn’t be so fast to be her rebound, no matter how many months go by. If she has the same desire that you feel in your heart, she will be yours.
Angel M. Rodriguez is a freelance writer based in Los Angeles. He writes horror, comedy and online articles for Review Weekly. Follow Angel on Twitter @TheRealAngel86